A package of seven articles
My articles on Restraining Orders are consistently among the most-read articles on the site. I have assembled seven articles that explore Restraining Orders and related concerns. Remember that all of these are written based on my understanding of Minnesota law. Details will probably be different in your state. And be sure to get the facts and updates from a professional in your area.
Details on Restraining Orders
Let's start with the basics. There are two things that are commonly called "Restraining Orders." One is an HRO, which stands for a Harassment Restraining Order. The other is an OFP, which stands for an Order For Protection. In Minnesota, an OFP is stronger and more versatile, but either one can get the job done.
My article, All About Restraining Orders, describes the differences between an OFP and an HRO, and gives details on how to get one for yourself.
For a step-by-step guide to filling out a restraining order, check out my article, How to File a Restraininig Order, which will help you understand how to go about it. A third article about restraining orders, More About Restraining Orders tells you more about how to get them, how to collect evidence, and gives information on how to keep yourself safe.
Important Note
Remember: don't try to do this on your own. Work with an Advocate. If your Advocate's advice or facts are different from mine, trust your Advocate. Don't do this alone. It is too important to take shortcuts.
What's an Advocate?
An Advocate is a professional at a Domestic Violence Prevention agency. Advocates are experts in this area. They know the law. They know the System, and how to make it work for you. They know the official channels and the unofficial channels. They work for free. They will understand and believe you. They will guard your privacy zealously. If you don't know the name or phone number of your local agency, check out this article, Where to Find Help. It will give you tips on how to find them and some information on the work they do.
For more details on what they can do, check out What's an Advocate? It will answer most of your questions.
Some Important Details
There may be more questions you have before leaving your violent situation. Remember that you can call the Domstic Violence Prevention agency anytime, day or night, and get advice and details about what that agency can do to help you.
You can also check out this article, What About My Pets? for information on this important detail.
Often, when I advise people to call their local Domestic Violence Prevention agency, they ask about "being reported." Most people don't even know what they mean by it, but it is a common and not-understood fear. Read my article about Mandated Reporting to learn more about it as I understand Minnesota law. It also tells you how to safely find out more details about your state's mandated reporting laws.
Getting an HRO or OFP is a huge step in getting free of violence and fear. If you do it properly, and learn what it can do and what it can't do, it can be a powerful tool for you. It shifts the power balance in your abusive relationship, because suddenly you will have some powerful friends.
